Tonglen Meditation as Self-Healing

Tonglen meditation is a simple practice of transmutation. It’s the process of breathing in “dirty” energy, thoughts, or feelings, and releasing them with compassionate non-attachment as pure light.

As opposed to the idea of breathing peace and calm into the body and mind, in tonglen we breathe in pain and suffering (dukkha) and transform it into peacefulness through non-attachment.

Tonglen is a world-healing practice. But when applied to the self, tonglen can have nothing short of miraculous healing effects.

When in pain, this form of meditation may seem like a counter-intuitive process. To breathe in your pain may feel like the last thing you want to do. Instead of breathing in that pain or suffering, it may feel more natural to push it away, stifle it, ignore it, or resist it.

But resistance is attachment, and the more resistance grows, the more the suffering you’re trying to avoid does too.

As a method of self-healing, over time the practice of tonglen can become an – if not the – automatic response to stress, anger, a bad mood, or general funk.

In Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP) there’s a tool called anchoring. An anchor is a link that is created either causally (naturally, or out of habit) or intentionally between an object and a state of emotion or consciousness, or between one state and another state.

Conscious, intentional anchoring can create the induction of a more positive state from a negative one, or it can be used as a way to remind you of tools that can help to transform that negative state.

In the context of application of tonglen as a self-healing practice, any negative emotion can be an anchor that will remind you to use breath to transform difficult emotions into pure compassionate release.

How To:
1. Notice your suffering. Allow this to be a reminder that you can release that suffering through practice.
2. Still or center yourself for a moment. With a breath or two, find a calm place in your experience of the moment.
3. Notice the negative energy (dukkha) as a cloud around your physical body.
4. With your breath, draw that cloud of suffering into your body.
5. Holding your breath in your chest for a moment, center yourself in non-attachment, and allow the suffering to transform into peace.
6. Release your breath as an exhalation of peace and clarity.
7. Repeat for as long as needed to clear your suffering.
Any practice of tonglen meditation is healing the whole. In the healing of the suffering of self is the healing of the world.

There is no self, and there is no other. As one of the innumerable sentient beings pervading time and space, the work you do to free yourself form your own attachment is work toward the liberation of all.

As you clear the skandas, aggregates, becloudings, the veils of illusion in your own life, the healing you create in your heart is truly the transmutation of the suffering of all beings.

Happy 2010 from Lasára and the Allen Household!

Robert and Lasára Allen, Dec. 25, '09Tired of New Years Resolutions? Why Not New Years Commitments, Intetionstions, and Fun?

Have you made any resolutions? Many of us make resolutions and then fail. Many of us make resolutions and then fail. I’m choosing to make intentions and commitments. But always with one cautionary caveat, which I encourage YOU to adopt as well; remember that while today is the first day of the rest of your year, this is also the first day of the rest of your life! And, this moment is the first moment of the rest of your physical existence. Every breath is a chance to make a new choice.

When you “fall short” of that commitment, offer yourself compassion instead of self-denigration, and gratitude instead of blame.

This new year, I’ll be making three lists. Each has a higher level of commitment 1: Commitments; 2: Intentions; 3; My “WHY NOT?” List.

List One; Commitments:

  • To recognize that every area of practice towards my own health is an act of dedication to the liberation of all sentient beings pervading time and space.
  • To recognize that serving my husband, my children, my family and my friends are part of my spiritual practice, and to treat it as such. And, to remember that this also serve the liberation of all beings.
  • To continue following the path that my gratitude practice opens for me.
  • To train towards my physical and fitness goals with passion and dedication. Failure is not an option.
  • To remain open to the idea, realization, (fact?), that love can be easeful, and that I am safe in it. And, safe in the arms and grace of my Mr.
  • Without expectation, to celebrate every anniversary and celebration that my Mr. and I can count as momentous; Valentines day when he moved in, reconfirmation June 26 in Seattle, August 12 when we eloped, Oct 3rd when we reconfirmed our vows, and Christmas when he was delivered to me – my greatest Christmas Miracle ever.
  • To build a circle of similarly minded friends here in the area, and to actively commitment to this as a practice of faith, desire, and love.
  • To continue working in acceptance of the choices I have made to support my growing balance and mental health, even when those choices feel like limitations.
  • To continue sharing my gifts with the world in whatever ways I am capable of at any time.
  • To continue trusting that God has a plan for me that is greater than I can see, and that every day I’m fulfilling that plan by living my life in as much consciousness as I can achieve.

Ror, Dec. 25, '09

List Two; Intentions

  • To begin praying and meditating again in a way that serves to ground and inspire me instead of making me too high and open.
  • To allow financial, desired, perfect abundance to enter and flow in my life, and have less attachment about how that flow occurs. To trust that God knows best how to deliver this abundance.
  • To follow the attraction and direction of my heart with grace, trust, and joy.
  • To invest in and develop forgiveness for myself and and the harm that occurred in my past.
  • More and more, to allow the support I so deeply desire.
  • To take what I have learned of trust, honesty, and openness from my husband and begin generalizing it to the rest of the world.
  • To hold regular gatherings as part of my community building adventure.
  • To close at least one book deal.
  • To write my next book, or books.
  • To shop Gratigories to a card publisher who may also want to publish my gratitude books.
  • To take trips outside the area more regularly.
  • To begin reading more books again.

List 3; My “WHY NOT?” List (next year and beyond):

  • Plan a belated honeymoon to Europe (Italy primarily) with my Mr.Sollie, 12.25.09
  • Run a half marathon.
  • Work toward my best comprehensive health in my life.
  • Get yoga instructor 200 hour certification.
  • Trust that love and sexual sharing can be exactly as I hope for it; easy, safe, based purely in shared desire and trust.
  • Explore new religions. (Catholicism, traditional Tantra, deeper into Tibetan Buddhism and Tantric teachings and ritual.)
  • Explore excavation of darkness and shadow, in the light.
  • Go dancing.
  • Take a dance class (again after all these years).
  • Take a voice class (again after all these years).
  • Visit different churches just to see what part of me the services sing to.

And, my final commitment; to visit this page at least once every three months, and mark off the things that actually have a completion point, and star the things I’m doing well on that are a path without destination.

What are your commitments, intentions, or WHY NOTs? I look forward to seeing what you have to share.

And with wishes of joy, abundance, and greatest gratitude, a very heartfelt prayer for a 2010 that is beyond your sweetest dreams, from our home and family to yours.

In GRATITUDE! (heart here!)